Saying Goodbye without a “Probem”
I’m feeling pensive today. I’ve been blessed with helping 3 pets and their people make transition plans in the past week.
Saying goodbye can be so intense and it is hard to see our loved ones uncomfortable, in pain, or unable to perform regular daily activities anymore.
The amazingly high-consciousness pet owners I consulted with were doing thier best to face thier impending losses and say their goodbyes with love and gratitude, but none were ready to let go.
What do you do when you’re not ready to let go but you’re gonna have to?
That is the question!
During one reading, we realized that when the soul starts leaving the body and the body starts shutting down, the medical community sees the changes in organ function as a problem to fix.
However, death is a normal part of life and it’s important to remember that there is no problem.
The challenge is to stay present with what is and stay in the love that you share with your pet. Sometimes the only (and best) thing we can do is love them as they go through this transition.
So, my question for you today is, what do you do when you’re not ready to let go but you’re gonna have to? Leave a note here for me and share your wisdom so we can all benefit from each others’ experiences and insight.
6 Comments
Elizabeth Jacksn
Hi Cara,
For me, when I had to lose one of my doggies, it came down to one simple question:
“Can I withstand this pain right now, in this moment, and keep withstanding it, until it subsides, and know that it is better to let my little one go, than to keep him here suffering?”
It also helped me to know that my little one was on a journey to the moon and stars once he went!
Thanks for your wonderful words
Elizabeth
Cara Gubbins
Yes, Elizabeth, I can see the power of that and the possibility in just being present in the moment right here, right now, even when it’s painful. Light to your puppy angel!
Tami
Cara,
Your advice about being present and staying in the love of your pet is sage advice! After 16 years, I put my Pekingnese, Beatty, down. I have had breakdown moments throughout the week, but the most comforting thoughts to me is knowing that our last few weeks together were special. I would take moments to hold him and talk of our memories together, took many pictures, and a video. Told him how much I loved him and that I didn’t want to see him suffer. So when the time came, he relaxed and I held his face as he passed. It was painfully beautiful.
Cara Gubbins
So touching, Tami. Thank you for sharing so deeply with Beatty and with us. What a beautiful model of unconditional love.
Hugs to you during your rough times,
Cara
Natalie
Dear Cara,
thank you very much for your article!
When I decided to have cats again about 15 years ago, I knew that I also had to be able to let them go when it’s time for them to go. For my first cat, I had to take this decision much earlier than I wanted. I had adopted a 10 year old cat that was terminally ill (the owner didn’t tell me). The cat lived with me for three years and he enjoyed life. He was a fabulous cat. And then, he entered in the final stage of his illness. I could see it by the way he walked. He stopped doing what he wanted. I observed him. I silently asked him whether he wanted to stay. And I felt that he didn’t. So I took this decision…
I think it’s about accepting and facing the pain and doing what’s best for the cat. I don’t want my cats to suffer due to my attachment. I assume the pain about loosing them is the same, whether we face it earlier or later. I want them to enjoy their live and I am deeply grateful for every moment we share together.
Have a wonderful day!
Best wishes,
Natalie
Cara Gubbins
Beautifully shared, Natalie!
I love that you are so clear on the value of every moment that you share! That is being in the loving!
Cara